Father of Swords stands at the gate of our knowing with his colorful sword and says Cut the Crap! Stop pretending. Get real.
Pretending to be happy when we feel sad, acting like we are ok when we are dying inside or agreeing with people just to get along – this is called sucking it up. It’s the way most of us were taught to be but it’s also one of the main reasons that we are so depressed and anxious.
Father of Swords is a fierce defender of the truth. The truth is that whatever it is that you are feeling is extremely important to pay attention to. Often, we may be confused when people say one thing and do another, or when we do not live up to the image that we project in the world. Father of Swords knows what is really true, despite all the elaborate masks we all wear.
Father of Swords is a master of boundaries. What are boundaries? The simple explanation is that boundaries are our own relationship to our inner self, our emotions, our needs, our desires. When we are solid with our own selves, we can say what is true for us without needing validation, approval or agreement from another person. Boundaries are our own expression of self respect. This is a work in progress, as every relationship can teach us something new about our boundaries, and how they could be strengthened and refined.
Father of Swords sees all sides, and stands guard at our Temple of Inner Knowing. Swords are the suit of the mind or the intellect – and the most useful role of the mind is to be able to discern what is right for us in any given moment. Father of Swords stands by us as we stand shaking or afraid in our own knowing – assuring us that our feelings are real, true and an accurate guide to what is right or wrong for each of us. If we can honor our own selves, then we can experience relationships with integrity. This is not an easy task, since it goes against almost everything most of us were taught as children.
When the Father of Swords appears in a reading, the distinct and powerful message says – Cut the Crap! Your knowing is solid. Your authority is strong. Your decisions are right for you. Father of Swords analyses, deduces and concludes. And then he stands strong in his decisions.
Father of Swords supports you to use logic and reason to support us to express ourselves clearly and in a detached but loving way. Father of Swords shows us that solid boundaries are a sign of love. He stands with dignity regardless of how his personal truth affects others. What is most important is that we each stand in our own integrity, in accordance with our deepest truths. Our feelings, needs and desires matter. Anyone who tries to tell us otherwise does not have our best interest at heart.
So cut the crap and speak your truth with fierce grace. Father of Swords is on your side.
Margot Darling 